A link and a bit of a real-life update
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ciirceeI wanted to share a link with...well, pretty much anybody. Everybody gets irritated by n00bs sometimes--be they new to Arashi or LJ or whatever. I know I've gotten rude and uppity. But, at the same time, I've been here for so long (since codes, people) that I forget what it's like to be NEW to a place. Lurking is not always first nature to people (my nearly twelve-year-old, for one and my almost-nine-year-old for another). Sometimes its satifying to snap at the n00bs who are asking a question we've seen thousands of times or who can't seem to think to check the memories or tags. But in the end, as with so many things, it's generally better to take a breath and be polite (yeah, I hate that too, sometimes).
I know that I'm still grateful that nobody ever trashed my first attempts at Arashi fic (just a month or so into the fandom) for all the errors that were in there. And I knwo that I was lucky enough to get in (with my first journal) when this place was just being built so I wasn't alone in not knowing what to do--we were all making it up as we went along. So for anybody new to LJ who happens by here Welcome to LJ and Arashi: A Brilliant Primer by Erin.
THAT said: I feel bad that I'm so behind on comments. I'm trying not to let that overwhelm me. And it CAN because I'm actually terribly shy in real life. I manage well if there's a goal or if it's in a big crowd (hey, I actually LIKE public speaking) but there are times when I sort of want to hide. And here? Where the people I know are fantastic and cool? Yeah, I can try to hard to be likable and end up feeling burnt out from being 'on' all the time.
Which is not a good feeling now. Skyla--my daughter's friend--is having a rough time of it. The divorce is turning nasty and her mom pretty much takes it out on her. She's cutting and mean and Skyla still loves her because it's her mother. There's nothing I can do, really, except keep being here and letting her know that Ed and I love having her (and the other kids) here because she is a good kid and we genuinely like her. Honestly? Thank god for Arashi and their music and their PVs and their shows (hey, VSArashi is moving to Golden Time--GO ARASHI!) and their dramas and the zoo show. All of the kids get a kick out of seeing them do some of the stupid stuff they've done and they think the dancing is cool. And that they're 'so cute, omg'.
PS. Tegomass. Which one of them sounds like a girl when he sings?
PPS. I like the song Puzzle.
EVEN MORE PS: I feel bad for saying it but I would totally bang all of TOKIO and probably most of SMAP. Why don't I know anything about V6 aside from 'lolz, boygirls'?
FINAL PS: I feel like I keep missing my flist (because y'all are awesome). Post a comment and ask me what I think about whenever I miss you/am thinking about you away from LJ then, in my next post, I'll tell you what it is and I might even explain WHY!
I know that I'm still grateful that nobody ever trashed my first attempts at Arashi fic (just a month or so into the fandom) for all the errors that were in there. And I knwo that I was lucky enough to get in (with my first journal) when this place was just being built so I wasn't alone in not knowing what to do--we were all making it up as we went along. So for anybody new to LJ who happens by here Welcome to LJ and Arashi: A Brilliant Primer by Erin.
THAT said: I feel bad that I'm so behind on comments. I'm trying not to let that overwhelm me. And it CAN because I'm actually terribly shy in real life. I manage well if there's a goal or if it's in a big crowd (hey, I actually LIKE public speaking) but there are times when I sort of want to hide. And here? Where the people I know are fantastic and cool? Yeah, I can try to hard to be likable and end up feeling burnt out from being 'on' all the time.
Which is not a good feeling now. Skyla--my daughter's friend--is having a rough time of it. The divorce is turning nasty and her mom pretty much takes it out on her. She's cutting and mean and Skyla still loves her because it's her mother. There's nothing I can do, really, except keep being here and letting her know that Ed and I love having her (and the other kids) here because she is a good kid and we genuinely like her. Honestly? Thank god for Arashi and their music and their PVs and their shows (hey, VSArashi is moving to Golden Time--GO ARASHI!) and their dramas and the zoo show. All of the kids get a kick out of seeing them do some of the stupid stuff they've done and they think the dancing is cool. And that they're 'so cute, omg'.
PS. Tegomass. Which one of them sounds like a girl when he sings?
PPS. I like the song Puzzle.
EVEN MORE PS: I feel bad for saying it but I would totally bang all of TOKIO and probably most of SMAP. Why don't I know anything about V6 aside from 'lolz, boygirls'?
FINAL PS: I feel like I keep missing my flist (because y'all are awesome). Post a comment and ask me what I think about whenever I miss you/am thinking about you away from LJ then, in my next post, I'll tell you what it is and I might even explain WHY!
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Date: 2009-07-28 04:59 am (UTC)I just wanted to say I ditto your sentiment about banging TOKIO and SMAP. I'm probably the only person in my age bracket that does, but there it is. :|
many hours later edit: I just wanted to say about the commenting and all--Don't let it wear you down. I mean, I realize that just having someone say that to you is not going to do much in the grand scheme of things, because ingrained behaviors and interpretation of events are things that are part of our general psychology and cannot just be ignored. HOWEVER! Stressing yourself out over it more than needs be clearly isn't going to help.
The fact that you comment at all is kind of exciting to me considering most people on my flist don't. I try my best to leave comments if I don't talk to the person on IM because I feel it's a fair trade off provided I'm saying something.
We all understand what it is like to feel kind of awkward and spazzy and not want to come off as being stupid. 99% of my flist, myself included, have all publicly said that they're painfully shy. You're in good company here, XD
All of that being said I'm still all a-fangirl-flutter whenever you gush over anything I do because I have lurked and admired your awesome since I entered into fandom. \o/
LASTLY
The one that sounds like a girl? That's Massu. (b ' ')b
EDIT AGAIN: I haven't known you long enough for you to miss anything about me when you're away from LJ! So I'd settle for why you friended me in the first place? If that's not too much to ask.